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Nice guys don't care what people think. It's obvious, because nobody likes them.

 Tough guys are desperate for validation and approval.

You say I'm too eager to please. To not please you I'll keep doing it

You say I care too much about people's opinions. Should I care that you think that?

Everyone expects you to be perfect all the time.

 That's why everyone is an asshole.

Confident people don't seek external validation because others already validated them. That's why they're confident in the first place

 Anyone who says they don't care if others don't like them is a liar or a fool. Does that hurt your feelings? Maybe you do need external validation just as much as anyone.

It's important to forgive disrespect, but not to enable it.

A real God would definitely only show himself once, because that makes the point more powerfully.

 For example, a comedian doesn't have to repeat or explain a joke. He makes it once with as much self-effacing as possible. This also explains why God chose to incarnate with maximal suffering in Christ.

People who don't accept your mental illness don't love you. Ignore them.

 Only love is good and only good is love. If someone condemns your mental illness, their opinion is not worth considering. If you say I am considering it as we speak, there is acknowledgement and there is care. Don't care about the opinions of those who don't care about you.

Your being creeped out is creeping me out

 So I find myself creepy too.

Happiness no matter the mistreatment you receive is the ultimate rebellion.

You shall not command people.

Your discomfort is making me uncomfortable.

 So I am also uncomfortable with me.

I scorn those who scorn anyone.

 So if ever anyone has scorned, then I scorn myself.

It's easier for a camel to go through the eye of the needle than for someone with pretty privelege to go to heaven.

 It's a bit less ancient of wording, but the Bible didn't like Jezebel either.

99 percent of suffering is just material circumstances. The 1% of spiritual suffering is controllable.

 An ignorant person may well be happier than a wise one in many cases.

My biggest problem is to imagine that I could be without problems

There's good times, and bad times. More good times than bad though. More OF them. (Last Polka)

Suffering is inescapable. Some things reduce it and some things increase it.

 Nothing resolves it fully.

The world is real and we all really exist. There will be no spiritual escape that mentally resolves the daily life hassles or stressful events.

 We can improve our situations, our minds, and our health, but we can never become invincible or unassailable in any way.

Being unhypocritical at all costs can lead to suffering.

 Sometimes, even if someone claims you are logically inconsistent, you just have to say, "Enough."

At a certain point, being undefensive has limits. I am not willing to accept the labels of, "selfish" or, "he offers no help."

And anyway, if I did try to tolerate those viewpoints it could sound like introjection; a defense. 

It's always the assholes who are assholes.

Constantly thinking about why someone creeps you out is creepy. So we're both creepy.

The problem isn't judging yourself. The problem is judging Bob, and vicariously yourself.

 Or not Bob specifically, but whoever it happens to be.

The problem isn't judging back the person you think is judging you. It's judging an unrelated person who does the very same thing you do.

 Rarely is it the person themselves.

The thing that bothers you most about yourself bothers you because you judge someone else for it

Salvation is time travel. You hear the good news of Christ and go back and nullify your sins.

 He was made of light after all. Light behaves quirkily.

You've never sinned anymore.

Time travel requires forgetting about grammar. 

It's dumb to grow up too fast, but it's also dumb to refuse to act like an adult if you are one.

All my life I was looking for the perfect woman, and I found her, but she was looking for the perfect man, which was good because I am perfect.

Some say strive for freedom. I say follow the path of least resistance. It may take you further than you ever thought possible.

 Or you'll just return home. 

Negativity is irrelevant.

 The light, whimsical moments of life are all that count. Even what seems meaningless in a passing moment of sincere wit is truly lovely.

Judge not even if others are judging us. Even if they still judge, God will not.

 It may make you unsuccessful to not condemn back, but that means nothing. They will probably start to judge you almost constantly, but that also doesn't matter.

The insult upon injury is when a despairing person doesn't get to help others with their despair.

Nobody's perfect, and that makes us losers. So I must become perfect.

God intended for Adam and Eve to eat the apple. He wanted them to gain wisdom and impermanence.

 How could he not? God knows everything. He knew they would only eat of it if he told them not to.

People hate me just for being human, so I'm gonna stop doing that.

I pay homage to the feet of the One Well Gone and request the Going Forth.

 Perhaps one day someone will actually read my blog to see it.

Figuring out someone's karma is like forecasting the weather for one century from today.

 "There will be no order; only chaos."- Pi

People worry a lot about being too nice to people, but they should worry just as much about being too nice to themselves.

Be kind to yourself instead. If you are too nice to yourself you might be mean to other people.

On the one hand, I am the only one who considers "here" to be where I am. On the other hand, everyone does.

 Is all non-duality equivocation?

Don't try to steer the unconscious. Don't analyze it either.

Use Tilopa's 6 words of advice.

One can assume they are doing no harm, or they can know it.

Knowing it seems like Buddhist salvation.

I might as well assume that I'm not harming anyone unless shown otherwise.

And then, I'll assume I don't intend to harm anyone, unless shown otherwise.

Don't feel guilty about people's tantrums and crocodile tears.

You are almost definitely not causing their ignorance, and they are almost certainly happier than you anyway.

Wearing a wedding ring doesn't make women attracted to you. It just makes them trust you and doubt that you want them.

Don't betray that trust.

One is able to not suffer and still hurt others. Usually the saintliest people suffer a lot.

Not always, but usually.

The highest good is compassion, not happiness.

Why would it be considered automatic that there has to be both? That's pretty irrational.

Buddhas and Christs agree: How much you love others is the sign of how much you love yourself.

If if everyone is enlightened then no one is enlightened, then this argument reduces to absurdity.

1. everyone is enlightened 2. no one is enlightened 3. assume 1 and 2 4. 1 and 2 contradict RAA

The only reasonable goal is abandoning all suffering

Given the sorrow of life, the absurd goal of never despairing is all we have.

Married people may be happier than single people, but widows are unhappier. Go figure.

No life strategy guarantees peace except renunciation, simplicity, and sobriety.

In my experience, the happily married are just deluded by society who approves of them. Kind of like the religious.

There is an illusion of permanence and safety. If you ask me, the only joy is in sobriety, renunciation, and silence. Nobody asked me though.

Do not condemn or envy the beautiful; it's not their choice to be pretty. It's the genetic lottery.

And if you are the beautiful, don't be proud of that. You didn't accomplish anything.

Abandon the second Noble Truth and there are left only 3: The Truth, the Truthteller, and the Way of Truth

But The Second Noble Truth is useful to be aware of, because probably it's true for most of us.

Blessed are the poor, but also the rich. Hopefully they're poor in spirit though.

Admittedly, humility is easier when you're actually poor. Rich people often start to believe, "I earned this."

Recognizing that what you are feeling is wrong is not ideal, whereas not wanting to feel such a way in the first place, can be.

The difference between, "You shouldn't desire," and "there IS no desire" is the necessity of effort

at the moment, I am too sick to desire.

When Gods said, "Don't do that" to Adam and Eve, they had a choice to endure suffering of craving and judgment until it faded. They chose poorly.

Happiness exists despite concerns.

the karma that bothered us before may not just change. How we think about it might.

God is Perfect. Nothing is perfect. God is (The Great) Nothing.

If someone was perfect in their last moment of life, they still likely had the capacity not to be.

If one is perfect sometimes, they are on a whole imperfect.

 A perfect game requires 27 outs, or 12 strikes. Probably no one can be, has been, or is constantly perfect... Even if they had a shift of mind.

Thinking the world revolves around you doesn't make it so.

 Being self-absorbed doesn't affect the world. It just makes you dumb.

The idea of hell is liberating to me; it cures me of the grandiosity that I will have taken more than I have given from an Infinite God.

Live like a rich person, spend like a poor person.

 Especially if you're poor.

No one is selfish. To think otherwise is not selfish, but wrong.

The only time this sentence was false was at the exact moment it was written.

[Paraphrased] Socrates: Everyone is ignorant. Polemarchus: Why? Socrates: Everyone thinks that they know. Polemarchus: Not you. Socrates: Me as well. I think that I know that.

No one can ever totally invalidate you, because you've been born.

 You'll always have existed.

The path and fruit of arahant are identical except inasmuch as path is the shift to the very first moment of arahant

 The fruit involves a shift from a moment of arahant to another moment of arahant, but it's equally arahantish. The path involves leaving behind unarahantishness, but the path is still arahanted. The fruit on the other hand doesn't need any leaving behind of its previous moment, which was also arahanty.

The term "validation seeking" is nothing but pseudo-psychological babble.

If there's a grain of truth in every criticism, what about the criticism, "nothing you say has even a grain of truth!"

An arahant could suffer if they wanted to, but they will never want to.

There's a grain of truth in every criticism, but what about the criticism, "there's no truth in what you say"?

You have veto power about defining your own narrative.

 If everyone else believes something about you, you have the executive power to decline that idea.

Anatta is not really worrying about how you're not the old you.

Don't ask questions if you're only interested in the person not having a good answer to them.

Most people want me to have never been born, so to not people please I will not try to build a time machine and go back and prevent myself from being born.

 That will also prevent me from having to solve the paradox that if I was never born I couldn't build the time machine.

Bahiya of the Bark Cloth realized that to see without a seer, one's sights aren't constantly fading. When in what is seen there is only what is seen, one realizes impermanence fully because it's always moving to past tense.

The same people who tell you to tear down your walls tell you you need better boundaries. Clearly they want to construct a 7 billion story Japanese pagoda.

 It will be especially hard to build this if you can't even have load bearing walls.

The opposite of disrespect is respect, opposite of disapproval, approval. Therefore if you demand no one hate you, you are by definition people-pleasing.

 Even the narcissist and sociopath is a people-pleaser in their ways.

The things people are most proud of are usually their biggest flaws. Men build and make things: nukes, crime, and war. Women feel things: disgusted, creeped out, and suspicious.

 One side does too much; the other side feels too much.

I've stopped asking myself how I feel. That question lets me feel worse.

The problem with atheists is they have too much faith in God.

 The word, "theist" is right in their names... which means Theos, or God.

Upon reviewing this blog, perhaps the issue is that I'm too sure of my own logic.

 Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.

Sex is not enjoyable to anyone. It's just that it's so painful to expect it that it's slightly relieving.

 Renunciation is much more enjoyable.

All good women like good men. All toxic women are disgusted by good men. Not every man can tell the difference.

 Women can tell the difference though, which is why they are usually smarter and why they usually hate each other.

Love the world even if the world hates you.

 God doesn't hate anyone but if you ever doubt that, then love God anyway.

The number 1 approaches itself.

 Infinitely, I might add.

Everyone has 1 good story.

 Sequels are never as good.

One can never be too helpful to others, but one can be not helpful enough to oneself.

 One can either be 100% helpful to everyone else with 99% efficiency, and 0% helpful to oneself, or 100% helpful to everyone including oneself, with 100% efficiency. Or one can be an asshole.

I know one thing and that is that I know something. And that something is that there is one thing that I know.

I don't have perfect imperfections; I only have IMperfect imperfections.

Calling someone unenlightened is unenlightened

 So I suppose I am unenlightened. 

Shaming someone is shameful, but unforgiveness is not unforgivable.

Nothing is unforgivable.

The Buddha did get angry and yell at people even after his enlightenment. Those who say, "No, it wasn't anger, he was just being protective" are like a parent saying, "I'm not yelling at you!"

 Let's face it, they're yelling. That doesn't mean it doesn't come from deep compassion though. 

I've always wanted to not hurt anyone, but I suppose it wasn't out of a higher motive. If other people hurt each other it doesn't matter to me very much. I just want to be the apex of morality, so that I'm a champion.

 I guess that's not very moral at all then is it?

It's not what it isn't.

There's no forgiveness in this world, but there is forgetting. Everything you do, good and bad, will be forgotten

 Try not to do any more of the bad things that people will have to forget.